Amigos, it’s been a little while, and I’ve been thinking of you. Something happened recently that I wanted to share with you.

I heard a whisper in my head.

It came on one of those days, you know the ones. Where everything is demanding something from you all at once and your nervous system is quietly screaming underneath the surface.

Socary, you can do anything. AND you cannot do everything at the same time.

Words I’ve carried for years from leaders I admire. And on that particular day, they came back to me at exactly the right moment.

Because at that moment I was trying so freaking hard.

Trying to be the best mom for my daughter while she navigates puberty. Showing up for my clients and being the best coach I can be. And navigating some really strong emotions around the political climate in this country.

Todo al mismo tiempo, all at the same time.

It was a lot.

My inner wisdom usually comes in whispers. She doesn’t shout. She doesn’t demand. She whispers, and she stops me in my tracks. I’ve learned to listen to her. I used to ignore her. I’ve learned the hard way what happens when I do.

I literally stopped and told my daughter: “Mami needs some inner time to breathe and process her emotions. Mami can do anything, y Mami no puede hacer todo al mismo tiempo, and Mami cannot do everything at the same time.”

She looked at me and nodded. She got it.

Y yo también, and so did I.

Con 50 años en este planeta, with 50 years on this planet, and turning 51 in November, I’m stopping faster when that whisper shows up. I know what it costs when I don’t.

Here’s what I know to be true right now:

We are living in a pressure cooker.

The world outside, the expectations we pile on ourselves, the roles we carry. When those meet sin válvula de escape, without a release valve, something has to give. And it usually gives in our body, in our relationships, in the quiet moments when nobody is watching.

So what did I do?

Me di permiso, I gave myself permission to pause.

To process. To let my inner system breathe and recalibrate. And from that quieter, more grounded place, I came back to a simple reminder I use with myself and my clients.

I call it the WIN reminder.

W — What’s
​I — Important
​N — Now

¿Qué es importante ahora? What’s important now?

Not everything on your list. Not everyone’s expectations. Just what truly matters right now, today, this week.

Here’s how I applied it across my own identities:

As a human being, I need a walk. I need music that feeds my soul and makes me want to dance. 💃🏽

As a mom, I need to put the phone down and play UNO with my daughter. She loves that game. Y la verdad, and honestly, so do I.

As a coach, I need to do breathwork before my sessions. To arrive fully present for the people who trust me with their inner world.

As a business owner, I need to do that accounting work I’ve been avoiding. Sí, eso también, yes, that too. 😄

The WIN reminder doesn’t make the pressure disappear. It recalibrates it. It helps you see what actually needs your attention, and release everything else, at least for now.

Mi invitación para ti, my invitation for you, this week:

Ask yourself WIN.

What is important now, as a human, as a parent, as a professional, as the partner, the person you are underneath all the roles you carry?

Let that question be your compass. Not your to-do list. Not someone else’s urgency. Just ¿qué es importante ahora? What’s important now?

You can do anything.

Y no puedes hacer todo al mismo tiempo, and you cannot do everything at the same time.

Neither can I. And that whisper inside you? It’s been there all along, waiting for you to get quiet enough to listen.

What is it saying to you right now? Reply and tell me. Me encantaría saber, I’d love to know. 💛

With Gratitude,

Socary 💛

Socary Rodriguez, MBA, PCC, ELI-MP
Certified Executive and Leadership Coach

Inner Connection Consulting

Top 20 Coaches in Chapel Hill, NC

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